The Relationship Philosophy

If a relationship is strong enough, then they have nothing to worry about someone like me.

Someone like me you say? It is natural convention in this day and age to respect a relationship. If two people are going out, then you shouldn't try and hit on, flirt, or make a move on them.

I personally find it much more exciting to pursue someone who is in a relationship. Obviously this statement is going to generate a charged emotion. Guys have marked their territory, they don't want people intruding. Sounds possessive, and in my belief that's exactly what it is. I won't go into human nature and some psychological discussion, because I don't think it should be labelled as such.

First off, there is no pressure involved: Conversation is a lot more relaxed when one party thinks that they don't have to try as hard. Second, it's more of a safety on the confidence: If you get shot down, you can always blame it on the relationship, which always feels good on the psyche. Third, if you DO succeed, wow how awesome is that? You got something that is normally out-of-bounds. Why go for a layup when you can dunk the ball?

If two people are meant to be with each other, then that's that. No matter any outside influence it won't, and shouldn't, make a difference. Don't think I don't respect that. But I am also not going to let relationships that don't fit that bill masquerade under that guise, and try to gain all of those perks. The "perfect" relationship is a beautiful thing, finding your soulmate is something I think everyone can relate to.

Right now I'm single, so it is admittedly really easy for me to have this position. It's really me trying to keep my options open, wherever they might be. If someone who I feel a real connection, who I think can challenge me and vice versa, but happens to be in a relationship I feel I would be doing us a disservice if I didn't see where we could go.

If I were in a relationship with someone, and got cheated on? Yea, it would really suck and I'd probably be pissed. But really, anyone in that position has to look at why that occurred. Why did it even happen in the first place? Was one or both of you feeling so insecure about how you felt about each other that you had to look to find true happiness in someone else? Did you take for granted something that should be respected, if not worked for, every single day?

Sure, this is a very long-term mindset, and a whirlwind of circumstances can generate a situation that shouldn't exist in the status quo. Mistakes are made, but they are just that: Mistakes from what is really the true course of proper events. If that is the case, then everyone should move on, and make the best of other situations.

There's obviously a plethora of other discussions on this topic, but for now those are my reasoned thoughts (to be continued? If inspiration strikes...).

~Bonsai

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I've always batted the idea of having a blog around. The problem is I never really knew what I was going to talk about.

So for now I figured I'd create this nice little blog so once inspiration struck me I'd be set.

So yea.

~Bonsai